So Much Of Life Is Wasted Posted on December 26, 2018 by admin Waiting for the ideal job. Waiting for the ideal weather. Andjust waiting for the ideal email or text reply. Ever waited for something and in hindsight understood just how much time was wasted? I know I have and I know the pain of not having the ability to recapture those lost moments, weeks or even years – they were gone forever. However, it is not my aim to be morbid here but to indicate some creative, optimistic and even risky ideas on what lies ahead, what’s real, what you can control and what can or will elude you no matter how hard you try or how long you wait. To start with, there are 3 different types of waiting – waiting for something to start, waiting for something to finish, or waiting for something to enhance, change or perhaps even recuperate. But irrespective of the waiting or what we might be awaiting the consequences are always the same – frustration, disappointment, sorrow, fear, and even anger and yes, even more, depending on the size or significance of what we’re waiting for. Waiting for Mr. or Ms. right before you’re in your seventies isn’t a smart move. Waiting for the ideal career position after bouncing from job to job for twenty years may get in the way of the perfect one showing up. Waiting years for a poor relationship to end or to another person to finish it when you know it is not or was not supposed to be or wasn’t a smart decision you made can create a whole lot of anxiety, resentment, and bitterness. Waiting for your children to finally get the idea of responsibility? Waiting for your workers to eventually have some respect, motivation or devotion? Waiting until you retire for the holiday of a lifetime? And then your spouse dies before you get to proceed. Waiting for decades to get a promotion, recognition or increase – well perhaps it’s time for a change. Waiting to truly live and have fun till you win the lottery, well, you may want to re-think your life goal. Waiting months or even months for the correct client or client to appear – well you may want to rethink your sales or marketing strategies. Having said all the above I need to be clear that I am not against waiting – for the correct reasons, for the right period of time or for the right, best or appropriate results. Are there any common emotions, attitudes or expectations that may lead to a waiting mindset? In my experience, I think there are ten significant ones; hope, fear, want, insecurity, self-esteem, ego needs, impatience, the need for control, dreams and or unhappiness. I don’t have time and I’m positive that you don’t either for me to dig into each of them in detail so allow me to see if I can provide you some summary points to take into account if you’ve been guilty of unnecessary waiting,’re awaiting something today or will, notice I said will and not may, wait for something later on. 2) fear – or the willingness to confront reality, uncertainty or unknowns at a frequent sense or reality-based way. 3) Ego – or an unhealthy definition of what you believe you deserve, you’re worth, you’re worthy of or you do not deserve. In the long run, waiting in the majority of scenarios is life wasted. The present lifespan typical of Americans is 77.3 decades. So, irrespective of your age whether you’re wasting days, weeks, months or years, in the long run, will give you memories of sorrow, resentment, apathy and or disappointment. Is it worthwhile? Was it worthwhile? For me, looking back, sometimes it had been, and, typically, it was not, but that is me. Here are some things to take into account if you’re a”server”. -Create a list of possible profits and losses for whatever you’re waiting for. Then weigh them appropriately for both the long and short term. You don’t need to follow it, but it might help you make better choices. -Start a decision journal and start keeping tabs on every decision you’ve made and their results or consequences and I am not referring here to where you choose to go to lunch or what colour dress to buy. -Meditate on all significant decisions and listen to your inner guidance system’s or soul’s suggestions or inclinations or anything you want to call it. -Maintain a list of all significant life choices and their eventual outcomes – if and when they finished; such as a business, career, relationship or job. -Don’t make decisions or take action while under stress or psychological unrest. -Learn to learn from everything irrespective of the outcome whether negative or positive. -Declare psychological endings before beginning new beginnings.